Free yourself with empathy.
Empathy gives you x-ray vision! Look at that person next to you. Imagine the emotions and thoughts swirling in their head. Don’t they look familiar?
“Ah, I see,” will be your response to everything.
You’ll never think these thoughts about others: - Why are they so angry? - How could they do that?
You’ll never think these thoughts about yourself: - Why am I so angry? - How could I have done that?
You’ll never feel wronged, since you can imagine swapping places with them. Duh, you would’ve done the same! You’ll never feel shame, because you know anyone else in your position would’ve done the same.
That’s freedom.